“Where are you going to college?” “when are you getting married?” “when are you having a baby?” “did you get that promotion yet?” “is your business making money yet?”. The QUESTIONS. Oh my God the questions. Most people are perfectly well intentioned, but if you aren’t careful you will find yourself staring at a wall one day thinking “am I behind?”.
If you don’t follow the “traditional” timeline you might find yourself doubting your every move. Whether you love your life or you have had some major setbacks, there are a few things that you should know…
The timeline is made up. We are all put on this earth for a finite amount of time. If you are spending it chasing someone elses idea of the perfect life, you are most likely missing out on your calling. Why not strive to live a purpose filled life?
Even the people that ARE on the more traditional or even the accelerated path get lost. I know because I am that person. I graduated from high school at 17, I was engaged and a college graduate at 20. I had made my first 6 figures by 21, married at 23, two kids before 30. ALL THE THINGS. And guess what…I woke up one day and thought “shit…what am I doing with my life now”. Sure, I had done “the things” but I had done almost nothing for ME.
You can go anywhere you want to go. You can get a new job, make more money, start a new business, make new friends, find love randomly one day, have children in a “non-traditional” way. You do NOT need to rush your timeline or beat yourself up. Period. Stop asking yourself “am I behind”?
If you’re feeling down today, know that life is too short to shove yourself into someone else’s box. Get out there and LIVE, and throw the damn timeline in the garbage.
Caitlin Thomas is the Founder of Beyond Boss, a professional photographer, and a mama of two. She is passionate about helping other women make more time for living and enjoying life, without sacrificing their dreams and ambitions.